What Causes Snoring?

Before we look at why men snore more than women, we need to understand how snoring happens in the first place. 

As you fall asleep the muscles in your upper airway start to relax. For some people, those muscles block the upper airway. When air passes through it makes that tissue vibrate. And that’s how you get the snoring noises. 

Why Do Men Snore More?

Now let’s talk about why men snore more than women. As we stated above, the main reason men snore more is because of their biology.

More Tissue and Space in the Airway

The first reason why men snore more than women is that they have more space and tissue in their upper airways. 

All people have a space in the back of their mouths called the oropharynx. When you lie down the tissue in the upper airway collapses into this space. For men, this space is larger. And they have more tissue to fill it. When they lie down their airway is blocked more than it is in women. So, air has a harder time getting through while they’re sleeping. 

The size of this tissue and their airway also makes men snore louder.

Men Carry Weight in Their Chests 

Obesity is a common cause of snoring in men. Men and women carry excess weight differently. Women carry it on their hips and thighs. Men, however, carry weight on their chests and necks. 

When men are overweight it creates fat deposits on their necks. This excess fat can block their airways when they lie down. Extra fat can also push against the chest, which decreases lung capacity. Reduced lung capacity causes the upper airway to collapse. Then, the air has a harder time getting through, which leads to snoring.

Hormones Play a Role

Finally, hormones are another reason why men snore more than women. 

Both men and women have hormones that contribute to whether they snore or not. For men, testosterone has been linked to increased snoring. Studies have found that there is a connection between the male hormone and the airway collapsing. However, these studies have not been able to show why they’re connected.

Women’s hormones actually help them snore less. Progesterone, a hormone that increases during pregnancy, promotes steady ventilation. Better ventilation causes a drop in airflow, which makes the airway less likely to collapse. Estrogen makes the tongue easier to contract. That reduces the likelihood of it falling back into the airway. As these hormones decrease during menopause, however, women may find that they start snoring more.

What Can Men Do to Reduce Snoring?

If your partner has been complaining about your snoring there are a few things you can do about it. 

First of all, if you snore a lot we encourage you to go see your doctor. Snoring isn’t always a sign of a serious issue. But it can be a symptom of obstructive sleep apnea. If this is the case, your doctor can help you develop a treatment plan, which will help you breathe better and reduce snoring.

If your snoring is not caused by sleep apnea there are some lifestyle changes that you can make. You can try sleeping on your side instead of your back. This keeps gravity from pulling your tissue into your airway. Nasal strips can also help keep everything open for air to pass through.  You can also try to quit smoking, as smoking is a risk factor for both sleep apnea and snoring.  

We’ve already discussed how obesity is a common cause of snoring in men. Losing weight can be difficult but it can help reduce your snoring.

What is Sleep Apnea?

As we’ve already stated, sleep apnea happens when your breathing is interrupted while you sleep. This interruption happens due to a blocked or narrow airway. 

When you sleep the muscles in your throat naturally relax. Most of the time your throat stays open enough for air to pass through. But for some people, the muscles relax too much. It then becomes difficult for you to breathe. 

Your body responds by waking up momentarily to reopen the airway. You may wake up with a gasp and the quickly go back to sleep. These episodes happen so fast that you don’t even notice most of the time. They also happen several times a night, which is why they have such an impact on the quality of your sleep. 

Most people who have sleep apnea aren’t aware of it. They may notice the symptoms, like how tired they are. But they don’t always make the connection between those symptoms and sleep apnea.   

How Sleep Apnea Affects Relationships

Sleep apnea can have a major impact on all areas of your life. Not treating sleep apnea can lead to serious health issues such as heart attack, stroke, and high blood pressure. You’re also at greater risk of developing Alzheimer’s and dementia.

Sleep apnea can also put a strain on your relationships. This is due to the effects sleep deprivation has on your mental and emotional health.

Sleep Deprivation and Relationships

In order for your brain to function well you need to get enough sleep every night. Sleep is how our body rebuilds and repairs. Your brain has cells called glial cells. Glial cells function as a filtration system for the brain. They work primarily when you’re sleeping. Because sleep apnea constantly interrupts your sleep the glial cells don’t work the way they need to. This leads to a lot of mental and emotional health problems. 

Sleep deprivation can cause problems such as:

• Low energy
• Brain fog
• Daytime sleepiness

Being tired all the time can also lead to mood disorders. You’ll find yourself feeling easily stressed and irritable. You may snap more at your partner and the other people in your life. Low energy makes it harder for you to help out around the house, which can lead to arguments between you and your spouse. 

Sleep Apnea Affects You and Your Partner

Of course, if you have sleep apnea you’ll notice these side effects in your own life. But sleep apnea can affect your partner as well. 

Snoring is one of the main symptoms of sleep apnea. And the noise from snoring can keep your partner up all night. The sudden gasps when your body wakes up throughout the night can also disturb your partner’s sleep. So, if you notice them becoming more irritable they’re probably suffering from sleep deprivation as well. 

Over time the lack of sleep can breed resentment in your partner. They may not know you have sleep apnea either. All they know is how hard it is to sleep.

Sleep Apnea Effects on Intimacy

Sleep apnea can also have an effect on intimacy. 

If you’re tired all the time you probably don’t feel like being romantic with your partner. The irritability can make it difficult as well.

But it’s not just low energy and mood swings that make intimacy difficult. Studies have shown that sleep deprivation can cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women. 

A healthy sex life is an important part of your relationship. And a lack of intimacy can weaken an already strained relationship.

That’s why it’s so important to get your sleep apnea diagnosed and treated. It doesn’t only affect you. It impacts your partner as well.

What Can You Do?

Now that you know how sleep apnea affects relationships, let’s talk about what you can do about it. 

The first thing you can do is be honest about what’s going on. If you think you might have sleep apnea you need to communicate that with your partner. Tell them how you feel. Don’t use it as an excuse, but help them understand why you’re so tired all the time. 

Then, you need to get help. Sleep apnea is not the kind of thing you can leave untreated. As we’ve already mentioned, sleep apnea can lead to several major health concerns like heart attacks and strokes. And of course, you’re probably already seeing the impact sleep apnea can have on your relationship. 

If you don’t want things to get worse you need to get treatment. 

Treatment options for sleep apnea include: 

• Lifestyle changes
• CPAP machine
• Oral appliances 
• Surgery 

The kind of treatment you need will depend on your case. You’ll need to get a diagnosis from a doctor who specializes in treating sleep apnea. They’ll most likely schedule a sleep study so they can get a better idea of what the problem is.  

What If Your Partner Has Sleep Apnea?

So, what if your partner is the one with sleep apnea? How can you be supportive and still get the sleep you both need?

Well, the first step is to put yourself in their shoes. You may be frustrated with how tired you are. You may be feeling impatient with their mood swings. But you also have to understand that if they have sleep apnea, it’s not something they can control until they get help. They’re also tired and frustrated. So the most significant thing you can do to help them is try to be empathetic. When you talk to them don’t try to blame them or get angry. Be gentle and let them know you care about them and their health. 

You need to encourage them to go see a doctor. They need help with their sleep apnea. And that help can only come from a doctor who specializes in sleep apnea. Go with them to their appointment for support and to help ask questions. Talk with them about their treatment options and be willing to help in any way you can.   

Once your partner is able to get treatment for sleep apnea, both of you will be able to sleep better at night.